Being disabled and dating
I was in a car accident when I was 5, when my family and I were coming home from ice skating a couple of days after Christmas, and it resulted in a spinal cord injury, so I've been in a wheelchair for a long time now.
I've usually ended up dating guys who I met in real life and my being in a wheelchair was usually never a problem in my dating life until I started meeting guys on Tinder. A., then moved to Boston for work, and now I live in New York City.
This lead me to create an account on Plenty Of Fish, where I decided that was what I would do – be honest.
I still didn’t show my illness in my photos – instead I showed my smile, which represents me far more than my disability.
Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about how to navigate my wheelchair, and how to have a normal life and normal relationships.
What’s more interesting, though, is how others view and handle people with disabilities.
Or was it better to be completely open and honest about things?
I started going to their events, but not with my husband.
When I married him, I was so young—24—that I didn't have a sense of who I was sexually.
In this blog Lizzy shares her experience of online dating.
I used Tinder for a year or so, and didn’t mention in the description, nor showed in the photos, that I had a disability. Some people responded with ‘oh my friend’s sister has that’, some asked ‘but can you still have sex though?