Dating mid life
Know thyself…and get a quick read of others Did you know that you can tell a lot about a person if you know what section of the newspaper (for those of us who still read our papers rather than the online version) he or she picks up first?
I should have known what I was in for when my soon-to-be husband consistently reached for two sections—sports and travel. As for me, well I guess I’m what you might call a “closeted romantic”: people are always shocked to learn that the first section I reach for in Sunday’s NY Times is always and invariably the wedding and engagement announcement section.
Many people roll up, write a half-hearted profile, find a couple of blurry photos, join a dating site, sit back and hope for the best. Have you ever asked yourself the question, ‘what do I really want? Are you online dating because some friends said you should give it a go or maybe because it’s kind of expected as a way to show you’re through your divorce or break up?
However I’m guessing that you wish to have a positive online dating experience, go on some great dates and, who knows, maybe meet someone you’re going to spend a lot of time with. And the more time you spend thinking about why you’re signing up and what you’re looking for, the better your experience will be. If you know you’re ready to move forward in life again, you’re going to give yourself a much better chance at getting this right, and most importantly: you’ll enjoy yourself more if you take some time to really think about what you want before you start.
There are a few important things I’ve learned from my very un-scientific survey: * People are lovable (in the relationship/romantic sense) at any age.
It was my first proper night out since I had broken up with my fiancé a few weeks previously and I wanted some male attention.
I might sound like I was brimming with confidence but I never dreamed I would be single again in my late 40s and to be honest I was scared to death.
I’d like to propose that there is actually a middle ground and that the thought process and actions reflected in this middle ground thinking will yield two critical outcomes: enjoyment during (most of ) the dating process and a higher probability of achieving the results you are looking for.
The following are things you need to have in place to work from this middle ground: 1.