Pro and cons of interracial dating
When I compare my first marriage to my African-American college sweetheart, which failed after just five years to my current four year old marriage to a Caucasian man, it is most interesting to me that the ups and downs within both of those relationships have had very little to do with race.Disagreements about money, lack of communication and ultimately, my former husband’s infidelity led to the break-up of our marriage.Below is a list she calls "trouble spots" in such marriages.These are points at which cultural differences raise issues and create problems that are either not present or are less severe in monocultural marriages.What I ultimately found was that similarities in intelligence level, personal values, and goals and interests were far better predictors of compatibility than race could ever hope to be.However, as I examine my current relationship I believe that there may, in fact be some definite advantages and disadvantages to interracial pairing.I am attempting this challenge but I recognize that it will be difficult to prove this point.
Although, as a college student you may not be thinking of marriage yet this book can help explain the issues related to interracial relationships.
However, I would like to state that, the potential physical appearance of a child and its potential success in life does not constitute any basis for a relationship to take place for two major reasons:1.
Physical beauty is a subjective quality that is a result of genetic structure and other people's ideas of beauty2.
Use the Six Dimensions of Culture by Joel Crohn, Ph. She examines the motives of those who marry across cultures.
Incorporating aspects of the culture/race/religion into you daily life. Having an incredible experience with someone you love and respect. An important step when dating someone, especially in a biracial or interracial relationship is to talk about each others values and beliefs.